Recently, our family has been experiencing quite a few 'learning'
moments from life at school. One thing leading to another, it
has come to my realization that 'words' are indeed powerful
things that comes out of our mouth and unless we make an
effort to curb it, it creates plenty of damage.
This happened in one of my daughters class. To protect all parties
involved I will not be naming anyone. During class time, some boys,
namely boyA, boyB and boyC was happily teasing each other with
the rude "F" word. We were shocked when we found out about this and we were
somewhat disapointed that most families allow such words in their
child's vocabulary and have not made any efforts to teach them self control.
Anyway, as my daughter continued to explained, this is NOT the
first occurence. These words were used in a rhymes, to create jokes,
and also used to stir/tease each other. Soon being annoyed, my girl noted that boyC have finally succumbed to the teasing and was in tears. She tried to ask the other 2 (who was at that
point laughing) boys to stop but with angry tones, they teased her instead.
Here lies the issue.
All this happened because these boys had a heart to tease, embarrass
and victimised boyC. They were actually laughing when they could
see their 'friend' in tears. Instead of stopping, they further rubbed it in
that he's always crying etc. Why has bullying become so 'easy' and without conscience in the hearts of these kids? This 'pack behaviour' only stood strong as it was a ratio of 2 against 1.
The poor crying kid was actually bigger in stature yet he was helpless.
As a result, we had to teach into our daughter,
which child to avoid and be careful with her dealings of them. For
her sake, we had to make it known to her that these boys are not
'desirable' company. This is just primary school, sigh! We also had to
teach her how to help the 'underdog' and comfort the one
who's being hurt. We had to re-introduce the idea that bullying of all
sorts 'hurt' and very much to our discomfort, the one who's bullying
is actually the one who has in-depth 'issues'.
Words hurt or words heal. We have to choose how to use them!
These 2 weeks, our girls have been memorising:
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
We've had an open window to teach this lesson into their hearts.
See another blog about a mom who knows the power of words
to encourage her child.
moments from life at school. One thing leading to another, it
has come to my realization that 'words' are indeed powerful
things that comes out of our mouth and unless we make an
effort to curb it, it creates plenty of damage.
This happened in one of my daughters class. To protect all parties
involved I will not be naming anyone. During class time, some boys,
namely boyA, boyB and boyC was happily teasing each other with
the rude "F" word. We were shocked when we found out about this and we were
somewhat disapointed that most families allow such words in their
child's vocabulary and have not made any efforts to teach them self control.
Anyway, as my daughter continued to explained, this is NOT thefirst occurence. These words were used in a rhymes, to create jokes,
and also used to stir/tease each other. Soon being annoyed, my girl noted that boyC have finally succumbed to the teasing and was in tears. She tried to ask the other 2 (who was at that
point laughing) boys to stop but with angry tones, they teased her instead.
Here lies the issue.
All this happened because these boys had a heart to tease, embarrass
and victimised boyC. They were actually laughing when they could
see their 'friend' in tears. Instead of stopping, they further rubbed it in
that he's always crying etc. Why has bullying become so 'easy' and without conscience in the hearts of these kids? This 'pack behaviour' only stood strong as it was a ratio of 2 against 1.
The poor crying kid was actually bigger in stature yet he was helpless.
As a result, we had to teach into our daughter,which child to avoid and be careful with her dealings of them. For
her sake, we had to make it known to her that these boys are not
'desirable' company. This is just primary school, sigh! We also had to
teach her how to help the 'underdog' and comfort the one
who's being hurt. We had to re-introduce the idea that bullying of all
sorts 'hurt' and very much to our discomfort, the one who's bullying
is actually the one who has in-depth 'issues'.
Words hurt or words heal. We have to choose how to use them!
These 2 weeks, our girls have been memorising:
Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
We've had an open window to teach this lesson into their hearts.
See another blog about a mom who knows the power of words
to encourage her child.
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